6 Safe First Date Conversation Topics
First dates can be very intimidating, and sometimes downright nerve-wracking. The first date is the time we get checked out, and that prospect often brings out all our fears and insecurities, panic takes over, and then we lay one big fat egg. Say bye-bye to that second date.
But it doesn’t always have to be that way. First dates, after all, are the time we put our best foot forward and appear interesting at the very least to our date. One way to do just that is to engage in conversations that would stir your date’s interest, and you’re guaranteed a night of smooth, free-flowing, and if you’re lucky, enjoyable verbal exchanges. And you get to learn more about your date.
However, you can’t just blurt out anything that comes to mind and assume your date will like whatever it is you said. There are certain conversation topics for a first date that can be considered safe, and listed below are six of them. Just keep in mind that you bring them up not in a manner that would make it sound like an interview, but in a way that would make your date feel like you’re talking with a friend.
1. Family and friends
In most cases, asking about family and friends will brighten your date’s face up and she’ll begin talking about how she met her friends, the crazy things that they used to do, how close she is to her dad, etc. However, always be on the lookout for signs that the topic is a bit touchy because, let’s face it, not all people come from happy families or had any close friends. Just one hint of this and drop the subject immediately.
2. Likes and dislikes
Probably one of the best ways to find out the things you have in common, if any. Ask your date what her favorite movies are, the books she couldn’t put down, the songs she has in her iPod, the actors she hates, or any other subject matter that would give you an idea what her personal tastes are. Talking about both your preferences can make for great conversation.
Most people love talking about the places they’ve been to, what they’ve seen, and unforgettable experiences in unforgettable places. Start asking her about these and you just might learn that you both have been to the same place before, and you can share your thoughts about it. If she says she hasn’t been anywhere else before, then you can ask her which places she dreams of visiting.
4. Taste in men
Learning what kind of man she’s attracted to is a must, simply because it gives you an idea if there’s anything about you that she could possibly take an interest in. Chances are, there’s a thing or two in you that could be attractive to her. But if you strike out as far as her taste in men is concerned, don’t go overhauling your entire personality just to suit what she needs. Many men actually do that, and they just don’t work out in the end. Just accept that maybe you just aren’t her type, and move on.
5. What she does with her free time
Another great way of learning what you have in common. Ask her what activities she loves her do when she has the time, and you just might stumble onto something that you both love doing, and you can do that thing together on any future dates.
6. The future
Now don’t get fresh and start discussing your future together. The future we’re talking about here is all about what she wants to do with her life, what her hopes and dreams and ambitions are, you know, stuff that look forward. And be sure you’ve prepared your own speech on the matter, because chances are, you’ll be asked the same question.
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